HAPPY FATHER'S DAY is taking on a new meaning..."HAPPY BABY DADDY DAY". 71% of all black women are living without a male in the home. The numbers are out...statistics have been confirmed and children living without a father will be impacted whether we want to admit it or not. The information contained within this post are for purposes of awareness.
It's Official: The Experiment Has Failed. For the best part of thirty years we have been conducting a vast experiment with the family, and now the results are in: the decline of the two-parent, married-couple family has resulted in poverty, ill-health, educational failure, unhappiness, anti-social behavior, isolation and social exclusion for thousands of women, men and children.
From Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family
By Rebecca O'Neill; Sept. 2002, CIVITAS
The Impact on our Children
Inter-spousal violence perpetrated by men is only a small aspect of family violence. False abuse allegations are only a small tile in the mosaic of vilifying the men in our society. They serve well in successful attempts to remove fathers from the lives of our children. Here are some statistics resulting from that which show more of the whole picture.
• 79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award
• 29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
• 46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support.
• 26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support.
• 20.0% of non-custodial mothers pay support at some level
• 61.0% of non-custodial fathers pay support at some level
• 66.2% of single custodial mothers work less than full time.
• 10.2% of single custodial fathers work less than full time.
• 7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly.
• 24.5% of single custodial fathers work more that 44 hours weekly.
• 46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance.
• 20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance.
[Technical Analysis Paper No. 42 - U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services - Office of Income Security Policy]
• 40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the fathers visitation to punish their ex-spouse.
["Frequency of Visitation" by Sanford Braver, American Journal of Orthopsychiatry]
• 50% of mothers see no value in the fathers continued contact with his children.
There are even theories circulating that female children have a propensity to enter puberty earlier than previous generations due to the pheromones emitted from strange males (often a step father or boyfriend of the mother).
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["Surviving the Breakup" by Joan Berlin Kelly]
• 90.2% of fathers with joint custody pay the support due.
• 79.1% of fathers with visitation privileges pay the support due.
• 44.5% of fathers with no visitation pay the support due.
• 37.9% of fathers are denied any visitation.
• 66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to the inability to pay.
[1988 Census "Child Support and Alimony: 1989 Series" P-60, No. 173 p.6-7, and "U.S. General Accounting Office Report" GAO/HRD-92-39FS January 1992]
• 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
[U. S. D.H.H.S. Bureau of the Census]
• 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.
• 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes.
[Center for Disease Control]
• 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
[Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14 p. 403-26]
• 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
[National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools]
• 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes
[U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept., 1988]
• 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home.
[Fulton County Georgia Jail Populations and Texas Dept. of Corrections, 1992]
• Nearly 2 of every 5 children in America do not live with their fathers.
[US News and World Report, February 27, 1995, p.39]
There are:
• 11,268,000 total custodial mothers
• 2,907,000 total custodial fathers
[Current Populations Reports, US Bureau of the Census, Series P-20, No. 458, 1991]
What does this mean? Children from fatherless homes are:
• 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide,
• 6.6 times to become teenaged mothers (if they are girls, of course),
• 24.3 times more likely to run away,
• 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders,
• 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institutions,
• 10.8 times more likely to commit rape,
• 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school,
• 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager.
(The calculation of the relative risks shown in the preceding list is based on 27% of children being in the care of single mothers.)
and — compared to children who are in the care of two biological, married parents — children who are in the care of single mothers are:
• 33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical attention), and
• 73 times more likely to be killed.
["Marriage: The Safest Place for Women and Children", by Patrick F. Fagan and Kirk A. Johnson, Ph.D. Backgrounder #1535.]
The presence of a protector is needed to evade the possible threats that face all children and youth. Young women and girls become more sexually active at an earlier age merely because the validation that a father would give is lost and becomes redefined in the placid cat calls of any male. Young men are highly exposed to becoming acculturated in the feminine rather than their natural male role merely because a model of "manliness" is absent. Some researchers even believe that some males will adapt to the feminine rather than the masculine as a SURVIVAL mechanism in the predominantly female cultures for which they are being exposed and reared.
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The idea for an official Father’s Day celebration came to a married daughter, Mrs. Sonora Smart Dodd, seated in a church in Spokane, Washington, attentive to a Sunday sermon on Mother’s Day in 1910-two years after the first Mother’s Day observance in West Virginia. Mrs. Dodd realized that in her own family it had been her father, William Jackson Smart, a Civil War veteran, who had sacrificed-raising herself and five sons alone, following the early death of his wife in childbirth. For Mrs. Dodd, the hardships her father had endured on their eastern Washington farm called to mind the unsung feats of fathers everywhere.
ReplyDeleteIn the early 70's couples always lived together. They never had the idea of divorcing or having babies out of wed- lock; but now it is the talk of the day. Women get pregnant not because the reaaly want that baby, but because they want to use the baby like a financial source of income from the man; what is known as child support.On the contrary, some women divorce their husbands may be because of insufficient financial liability which was not the case when they got married or because of abuse. In that light, they end up as single mothers. This causes a great impact in the child's social life because he/she does not have that opportunity to interact with the father. The child lacks that part of loving care established by the father so they feel they are insecure. By being insecured, they go out to look for that security and loving care from out side. These children with no fathers in their lives turn to live in distrust and doubt of their immediate environment.
reading this article i agree it is very true that father's day has taken a whole new meaning. most of the men that do recieve father's day gift are not biological fathers. many women are making choses and not fully thinking about the repercussions it may have on their children.as much as chldren need the motherly figure in their lives, they also need the fatherly figure. haing both parents present can help mold the child's perspectives later in life.i believe this whole issue boils down to the mothers. they need to be strong enough to make sure that they don't bring a child into the world who is not going to have a strong foundation. parents should also avoid the troubles in the family like domestic abuse and violence which women are most likely to suffer from. choice making plays a big role for a child to have a befitting father.
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